SUMMARY

Taylor and Kelly sit down with Nate Van Heuveln, owner of Criterion Counseling in St. Cloud, to talk about the clients most people don’t picture when they think about therapy: high-functioning adults who look like they have it all together while quietly running on empty. Nate walks through his path into counseling, from a childhood surrounded by helping professionals to a “scenic route” through paper routes, rock-picking, and industrial-organizational psychology before landing on his own practice in January 2026.

The conversation digs into what makes high-functioning stress so easy to miss. Nate’s clients are the caregivers, first responders, and business owners everyone else relies on, which makes them the least likely to reach out first. He unpacks the idea of “false truths,” the self-imposed standards that show up as a mental yardstick most of us are holding up to ourselves, and offers a simple reframe: you have 100 percent to give on any given day, not 200, and that’s allowed to look different day to day.

The episode also turns into an unexpected marketing conversation. Nate connects his own approach to building Criterion Counseling back to a concept Taylor and Kelly talk about constantly with clients: knowing who you are before you try to market anything. Before wrapping, Nate shares a visual reminder of the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline and encourages listeners to treat it as a resource for any moment that feels heavy, not just a crisis line of last resort.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Meet Nate Van Heuveln of Criterion Counseling
03:00 How Nate Found His Way Into Counseling
08:20 Working With High-Functioning Adults
11:20 Convincing Ourselves We’re Fine
12:50 Is Everyone Really Burnt Out?
14:00 When Stress Is Actually Useful
15:10 The Yardstick We Hold Ourselves To
17:20 False Truths
20:20 Signs You’ve Reached Your Breaking Point
21:40 What a First Session Looks Like
23:20 Why Nate Opened His Own Practice
27:30 Marketing a Counseling Practice
32:40 The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline
35:30 Don’t Treat Your Car Better Than Yourself

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Takeaways:

  • High-functioning stress often hides behind competence, which is exactly why it goes unaddressed for so long.
  • Some stress is useful. The goal is building the flexibility to turn the volume up and down as needed.
  • “False truths,” the limits we quietly impose on ourselves, drive a lot of pressure that was never coming from anyone else.

Key Topics Covered:

  • Nate’s scenic route into counseling and opening his own practice
  • Why high-functioning adults are often the last to ask for help
  • How counseling differs from coaching and consulting
  • When stress is adaptive and when it becomes something more
  • The mental yardstick and the “false truths” we hold ourselves to
  • Warning signs that stress is affecting relationships and daily life
  • What to expect from a free consultation and first session
  • Why knowing who you are shapes your business and your marketing
  • The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline as a resource for anyone